“The Effect of Parental Attitudes on Adolescents”

Any success of a child in the long journey of education is affected by a wide range of variables. The family, which is among these variables, has a vital role. The family is a stakeholder that has a significant impact on children. The family, which is a critical environment where the child gains social skills, personal characteristics and many values, is of great importance as the place where the first communication starts. Parents should have a healthy child-rearing attitude in order to talk about a mutual interaction involving children in this communication process.

Relationships between children and parents, the family environment in which the child was born and raised, the relationships between the parents, whether there is a child suitable for the child's expectations, the number of children in the family, the gender and characteristics of the child, the socioeconomic status and cultural characteristics of the family determined. While the practices or behaviors of the parents are displayed against the behavior of the child in a particular situation, parental attitudes can be defined as the attitude towards different situations of the child. Parents' attitudes towards their children gain importance in childhood, when the development of the child is largely shaped. Attitude in the broadest sense is defined as a highly persistent judgmental tendency that causes people to think, feel or act positively or negatively about a certain person, group, object or event.

In education; Authoritarian Parenting Attitude, Protective Parent Attitude, Overly Permissive Parenting Attitude, Unbalanced Parent Attitude, Rejecting Parent Attitude and Democratic Parent Attitude were mentioned.
In Authoritarian Parent Attitude; Parents who adopt this attitude have a strict understanding of discipline. Children are brought up in a family environment where there is a strict discipline and emotional support and attention are inadequate. Absolute obedience is expected from the child. It is observed that children who grow up with this parenting attitude have low self-esteem, high anxiety levels, and generally have adaptation problems in the school and social environment. In addition, anger development and externalizing problems are observed in children growing up in this family environment. Within the Protective Parent Attitude as a result of being overly controlled and caring for the child, an overly dependent, insecure, and emotionally disillusioned personality develops. The psychological and physical skill development of the child is constantly prevented with a protective attitude, and the development of autonomous thinking and self-confidence is prevented. Overprotection of parents also affects the school success and school adaptation of the child. Also, there is a problem of shyness in children growing up in this family environment.

In the Overly Tolerant Parent-Father Attitude; Although the child receives warm care and acceptance, there is a lack of restriction or control of the child. With a loose or inconsistent approach to discipline, the child's undesirable behaviors are often ignored. Families with this attitude always approach the wishes and behaviors of children with an accepting and positive attitude. They absolutely avoid punishment and sometimes neglect children under the pretense of tolerance. In Unstable Parent Attitude; Parents with this attitude punish the behavior that is tolerated one day and the next, and when they ask their children to do something and punish them, they do not explain the reason. Parents, who are always in an unstable and indecisive attitude, convey their own inconsistencies to their children and the child is also surprised because they are constantly confronted with inconsistent behaviors and attitudes; they raise fears, delusions and problems that attract attention. In the Rejecting Parent Attitude; It can be defined as having hostile feelings for the child by disrupting his / her physical and spiritual needs. The child is not given love, compassion, warmth and affection in the rejecting parental attitude. In this parental attitude, the child is generally not liked at all and everything he does is constantly criticized. The bad and negative aspects of the child are constantly emphasized rather than the good and positive aspects of the child. In the Democratic Parenting Attitude; A healthy communication is established within the family, emotional support is provided to the child, and the child is helped to develop. However, in a disciplined environment, it is ensured that the child reaches certain standards. Families guide the child's activities in a problem-oriented and logical manner. It has been observed that children who grow up in a democratic family environment display positive development and adaptation characteristics by internalizing their parents' values, and are better at their social-emotional competence and emotion regulation. Flexible and warm democratic parental attitude is regarded as the most beneficial attitude in a child's social, cognitive, moral and emotional development.

After evaluating the parental attitudes in education, it was emphasized what should be considered in family communication and which communication network should be established with adolescent children. It was stated that when communicating with children, I language should be used instead of you language. The importance of effective listening and empathy processes was mentioned in terms of the quality of communication established within the family. The session was terminated by referring to the types of miscommunication known to be true in family communication.
 
 
 
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